3 Tips on Working With Older Men

“Do not rebuke an older man but encourage him as you would a father, younger men as brothers.” - 1 Timothy 5:1.

Paul knows Timothy must work with others, so he gives him practical wisdom commands to help him in his ministry. In these instructions for the church, the church is portrayed in the context of a family. Familial love, respect, and support are to be the defining characteristics of our churches.

Practical Advice from my Parents

I recently received some advice from my own dad when it comes to working with others, and I would like to share them with you here today. Here are three tips to remember when working with older men.

1. Be respectful. 

Remember that older men come from different upbringings and backgrounds. There is always going to be a generational divide. You must understand different contexts and mindsets.

2. Trust the pastors. 

While there are many laymen who may offer opinions, the church is shepherded by pastors. So state your case, give your opinions, and trust that the pastors are doing their best to go in the direction God is leading.

3. Major on the majors. 

Unless there is some gross or obscene theological disagreement, be patient in working with different views and understandings. Know that sometimes you might just be discussing opinions or preferences. There is still beauty in diversity. Not all churches look the same.

Be the Bride of Christ

I am thankful for the older men that God has placed in my life. It is good to remember that the church is messy because it is filled with sinners. 

In a multi-ethnic, multi-generational church, there are going to be disagreements - but they do not have to be destructive. By the grace of God, the bride will be beautiful and blameless on her wedding day. 

In Essentials Unity, In Non-Essentials Liberty, In All Things Charity - Rupertus Meldenius.